Playing High

There seems to be an agreement among the Dommes and subs under 30 that it’s ok to get high and then have a session together. For me personally, this goes waaaaay beyond being irresponsible. The under 30 group seem to think that it would be funny to get high, tie someone up, and walk away and forget about them. Or how about this one, get high, tie someone up and make them eat a Twinkie out of your butt? I’m sorry, but for me personally this has nothing to do whatsoever with BDSM. This sounds more like a bunch of kids playing pranks on one another.

BDSM can be fun, and Dom/mes can be mischievous and play pranks on their subs, but a Dom/me should never tie a sub up or down and walk away. Likewise, Dom/mes and subs should never, ever play when either of them are under the influence of anything. The risks are just too great.

I guess I’m old fashioned, but when I play I’m constantly aware that the sub has put his well-being into my hands for safe keeping. That’s why at the beginning of each session, I go thru a ritual with my subs no matter how many times I have played with them before. I have my sub kneel, and I ask them if they promise to do all that I ask of them to the best of their ability. Once they answer yes, I gently stroke the side of their face and promise to take good care of them while they serve me. It is a rather formal way of exchanging promises. My sub promises to try and serve me to the best of his ability, and I promise to let no lasting harm come to him. It’s a formal exchange of trust.

If I were high, I could not make such promises, and if my sub were high neither could he. Being high changes your perceptions, and your reactions. A Dom/me can not promise to take good care of their sub, because they are not really all that interested in the sub, but how they feel being high. Likewise, a sub can not serve to the best of his ability if he’s high. It’s a fact; people do some very stupid things when they are high. I personally would not want to be responsible for something really bad happening to someone. It’s a matter of responsibility and trust.

To the young all things are possible, and they are invincible. Nothing bad will ever happen to them, until it does, and then they learn usually at the expense of someone else. This is one of many reasons why I refuse to play with subs under the age of 30. They simply are NOT mature or responsible enough to interest me. My subs know that they can trust me, because I take things so seriously. If I make a mistake it will be an honest mistake made in error, not a foolish mistake made out of irresponsibility or stupidity.